Relationships and Cleaning

Relationships and cleaning are things that co-exist. When it comes to relationships, there can be many reasons why fights happen with your significant other. Commonly, it can be over something as simple as cleaning duties. We are going to tell you how we can help you to save your relationship.

How many times have you gotten into an argument with your partner over who’s going to clean a room or do the dishes? While it may seem silly or trivial, spouses fighting over cleaning duties is not! Sadly, it can actually indicate a failure to communicate, cause feelings of resentment, and leave many of us feeling under-appreciated. A lot of us have been there. Here are some of the reasons spouses fight and why it might be a good idea to hire a cleaning service to help sort out this issue.

Commonly affected

Many couples spend years together and never get over the tension that chores can bring. Couples who have the hardest time often are newlyweds or young couples who are just starting a life together. Knowing you’re compatible with your spouse with the big things in life is simple, however, the little things can cause a lot of strife and breakdown. Realizing that you may not have the same opinions on how things should be cleaned – or how often they should be done is important.

New parents find there are many added responsibilities once a baby is brought into their home. Additional laundry, dirty dishes, baby gear, and simply more stuff cluttering up the home are inevitable.  Trying to take on the extra responsibility of caring for an infant and maintaining a household is a huge life adjustment. Being sure to communicate and being on the same page at this time of life is extremely important.

Expectations

Often, fighting over home cleaning and household chores is simply a matter of mismatched expectations. The two partners may never have firmly established who’s in charge of what – or how the system will work. They may have different expectations about the arrangement. This can lead to tensions and a fight when both people feel like their expectations aren’t being lived up to. Frequently, this is the root cause of why spouses might be arguing over these things and why it can put a strain on their relationship or marriage.

Priorities

In addition to expectations, what one spouse considers to be of extreme importance, the other may not. Many people view how clean something is different from others.  On one hand, some people may be satisfied with the house being picked up and the floors cleaned. Others likely see the dust under the furniture and baseboards then become upset that it isn’t done.

Lack of Planning

This is another common cause of fighting over household cleaning and can actually be a result of poor communication. Essentially, you or your partner might be failing to plan ahead for how you are going to handle the cleaning chores. This can boil over into heated arguments when the time has arrived to take care of the cleaning. If there was no plan in motion for how to deal with the cleaning, they can avoid disputes by simply making a plan and sticking to it!

Perhaps just sitting down over a cup of coffee and drawing it out is just what you need. Discuss what key points are important to you, and what points you don’t care for. If one person hates doing dishes, maybe the other doesn’t mind doing them. Make a list of what needs to be done, divide the list and conquer!

Asking for Help

Finally, the main cause of friction on this issue may simply be that it is difficult for you or your spouse to ask each other for help. Often there’s a certain amount of ego involved in this situation and people don’t like admitting that they feel overwhelmed or stressed out about the cleaning. As a result, they fail to ask their spouse for help, which results in frequent blowouts and bickering. It’s not at all uncommon for the problem to have been capable of being avoided by one person simply asking the other for help! The problem is that one or both partners failed to do this and it resulted in relationship strife.

Additionally, sometimes we may not realize that asking is important. Somewhat humorously, sometimes we just assume that our significant others just know what needs to be done and will do it. The fact is, communicating what you need help with will often times get better results.

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The Solution

While the obvious solution to all of these problems is to strengthen your communication with each other, it’s also worth noting that this whole issue could be resolved by simply hiring a cleaning service! If there are no household chores for either spouse to do, then there isn’t any reason for the two of them to argue over it, right? If it seems too good to be true, that’s only because you’re over-complicating the issue. When you take away the cause of the issue, then the issue will no longer exist, which is exactly why, if you live in Western Michigan, it could be a very good idea to enlist our services. We are very confident that you will feel the whole issue simply fade into nothingness!